CURIOSITY LAB - Impact play
When: Oct 30, 2025 at 7:00pm
Where: Sawtelle (90064) *Please note, we are no longer in West Hollywood
CURIOSITY LAB: Impact play
Join us for an evening of connection, learning, and exploration.
In this edition of the Lab, we dive into impact play — spanking, flogging, paddles, crops, whips, and more. We’ll explore how to build trust, warm up the body, and use rhythm, pacing, and intensity to create exhilarating sensation while keeping partners safe and cared for.
Who it’s for
All welcome — from complete beginners to seasoned players; tops, bottoms, and switches alike. Come ready to explore the beauty of sensation and communication in a fun, sexy, and fully consent-forward environment. There will be opportunities to practice techniques along the way, so bring a lover, or come solo and meet new friends.
Details
Join us for an evening of connection, learning, and exploration.
✨ Open to all experience levels
✨ Bring a friend or come solo,
✨ Just watch & listen if you want, or dive in and experience it for yourself
In this edition of the Lab, we dive into impact play — spanking, flogging, paddles, crops, whips, and more. We’ll explore how to build trust, warm up the body, and use rhythm, pacing, and intensity to create exhilarating sensation while keeping partners safe and cared for.
Schedule
7:00 - 7:20: Arrival
7:30 - 8:45 Discussion, demonstrations, and hands on tutorial
8:45 - 9:30 Open format - Meet, mingle, watch, learn, and try out impact techniques in a controlled setting. We’ll play some tunes, and you can hang out, chat and have fun.
What is Impact play?
Impact play is the consensual art of creating sensation on the body from impact on the skin. Using hands or implements like paddles, floggers, crops, and whips, the top (giving partner) to shape energy, heighten awareness, and build connection with the bottom (receiving partner). Unlike abuse, it happens only when all parties actively choose to participate, agree on boundaries, and consent to specific activities before any play begins.
Impact play can be deeply sensual — or sexual—but it doesn’t have to be. For many, it’s a way to explore sensation & trust, or access submissive and meditative states of mind. Both the person delivering impact and the person receiving it can experience profound satisfaction and joy, independent of any sexual pleasure that may also be involved.
At its core, impact play is built on consent, communication, and connection—and it thrives with clear negotiation, calibrated warm-ups, ongoing check-ins (including safe words/signals), and thoughtful aftercare.
Z La’Vex
Z La’Vex is a professional dominatrix, and the Creative Director of Lovely Fate. Her work blends erotic ritual with precise scenecraft — prioritizing consent, psychology, and the somatic experience of power exchange. She’s known for creating containers where partners feel both exquisitely held and deliciously challenged.
As an educator, Mistress Z brings a sharp, entertaining style that makes complex dynamics accessible and tangible. She teaches practical dominance—voice, posture, pacing, protocol—as well as negotiation, check-ins, and aftercare, turning theory into embodied skill. As Lovely Fate’s Creative Director, she develops immersive programming and performance that spotlight the beauty, intensity, and integrity of kink.
FAQs
What is the start and end time?
Please arrive between 7pm and 7:20.
The discussion will start promptly at 7:30, and the event ends at 10:0pm.
Do I need to bring a partner to learn / practise with?
You are welcome to, but you certainly don’t need to! Regardless of whether you are a Dom, sub, switch, or just curious, you are welcome to come solo if you’d like! We’ll be teaching some techniques that can be practiced without a partner, and there will be other people attending solo if you’d prefer to partner with someone. Plus, there will be plenty of interesting things happening if you just prefer to watch & socialize.
Is play allowed at this event?
This is a bdsm-focused social & learning event. During the open format time, all kinds of bdsm-oriented play, sensation play, sensual touching and light impact are allowed & encouraged. Sexual play and hand-to-genital contact are not allowed at this event. Specifics of any intended play must be discussed & agreed with your play partner prior to starting your play scene.
Will people be getting naked?
No. If you want to experience more skin contact during the open format section of the evening, you are welcome to take off a layer, but as this is not a play party, we ask that everyone please at minimum keep their underwear on at this event. Please note that it is also perfectly valid & normal to keep your clothes on for this event - in which case we recommend wearing light and comfortable clothing.
Are there ID or minimum age requirements to enter the event?
This event is 21+ only, and you will need to show ID at the door
Will there be food & drinks provided?
We’ll provide water. Feel free to bring any other beverages you’d like to enjoy for after the demo & tutorial has concluded.
How can I contact the organizer with any questions?
Please email us with any questions at hello@lovelyfate.com
What's the refund policy?
Please see our refund policy here.
I'm new and not sure what to expect. Will I be expected to participate in play?
Newcomers are welcome, and there is zero pressure to participate in play. You are welcome to just hang out and watch if you want. For more info, please read here https://lovelyfate.com/about/. Come check it out… you’ll love it!