CURIOSITY LAB: spanking
When: June 14, 2026 at 7:00pm
Where: Sawtelle, West LA (90064)
CURIOSITY LAB: Spanking
Join us for an evening of connection, learning, and exploration.
In this edition of the Lab, we explore spanking as a form sensual and connecting play between consenting lovers. We'll cover the fundamentals of giving and receiving, including technique, warm-up, rhythm, and intensity, and how intention and awareness can turn something simple into something deeply powerful.
Who it’s for
All welcome, from complete beginners to seasoned players — tops, switches, bottoms and anyone who is curious. Come ready to explore the sensual arts in a fun, sexy, and fully consent-forward environment. There will be opportunities to practice techniques along the way, so bring a lover, or come solo and meet new friends.
Details
Join us for an evening of connection, learning, and exploration.
✨ Open to all experience levels
✨ Bring a friend or come solo, pairs will be formed for practicing the techniques we cover
✨ Wear comfortable clothing that allows for movement
Schedule
7:00 - 7:20: Arrival
7:30 - 8:45 Discussion, demonstrations, and pair-practise
8:45 - 9:30 Open format - Meet, mingle, watch, learn, and try out the techniques you’ve learned, with optional guidance if requested. We’ll play some tunes, and you can hang out, chat and have fun.
What is Spanking in play?
Spanking is the consensual practice of giving and receiving hand impact as a form of sensation play and power exchange. When approached with clear communication, careful technique, and genuine attunement between partners, it becomes a surprisingly intimate practice. One that heightens presence, amplifies sensation, and creates a deep and dynamic connection between giver and receiver; all while keeping both partners safe and cared for.
At their core, all of the bdsm and sensual arts taught in our workshops are built on trust, presence, and attunement - and flourish through clear negotiation, ongoing feedback during the experience, and thoughtful check-ins with your play partner.
Z La’Vex
Z La’Vex is a professional dominatrix, and the Creative Director of Lovely Fate. Her work blends erotic ritual with precise scenecraft — prioritizing consent, psychology, and the somatic experience of power exchange. She’s known for creating containers where partners feel both exquisitely held and deliciously challenged.
As an educator, Mistress Z brings a sharp, entertaining style that makes complex dynamics accessible and tangible. She teaches practical dominance—voice, posture, pacing, protocol—as well as negotiation, check-ins, and aftercare, turning theory into embodied skill. As Lovely Fate’s Creative Director, she develops immersive programming and performance that spotlight the beauty, intensity, and integrity of kink.
FAQs
What is the start and end time?
Please arrive between 7pm and 7:15.
The discussion will start promptly at 7:15, and the event ends at 9:45pm.
Do I need to bring a partner?
Nope! Regardless of whether you are a Dom, sub, switch, or just curious, you are welcome to come solo if you’d like! We’ll be teaching some techniques that can be practiced without a partner, there will be other solo attendees you can pair with if you’d like, and also our facilitators will be available to pair with people who want to practice techniques that are taught in the workshop (whether dominant, submissive, or both). Plus, there will be plenty of interesting things happening if you just prefer to watch & socialize.
Is play allowed at this event?
This is a BDSM-focused social & learning event. During the open format time, all kinds of bdsm-oriented play, sensation play, sensual touching and light impact are allowed & encouraged. Sexual play and hand-to-genital contact are not allowed at this event. Specifics of any intended play must be discussed & agreed with your play partner prior to starting your play scene.
Will people be getting naked?
No. If you want to experience more skin contact during the open format section of the evening, you are welcome to take of a layer, but as this is not a play party, we ask that everyone please at minimum keep their underwear on at this event. Please note that it is also perfectly valid & normal to keep your clothes on for this event - in which case we recommend wearing light and comfortable clothing.
Are there ID or minimum age requirements to enter the event?
This event is 21+ only, and you will need to show ID at the door
Will there be food & drinks provided?
We’ll provide water. Feel free to bring any other beverages you’d like to enjoy for after the demo & tutorial has concluded.
How can I contact the organizer with any questions?
Please email us with any questions at hello@lovelyfate.com
What's the refund policy?
Please see our refund policy here.
I'm new and not sure what to expect. Will I be expected to participate?
Newcomers are welcome, and there is zero pressure to participate in any physical interation. You are welcome to just hang out and socialize if you want. For more info, please read here https://lovelyfate.com/about/. Come check it out… you’ll love it!